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Dating Madness - 2 of 5

By Ryan, January 10, 2007

And now it’s time for Dating Advice With Ryan: the part of the blog where Ryan comes out and gives dating advice.

Last Wednesday, I spoke against cutting to the chase. This week, it’s us against the world. What I say in the next few paragraphs will completely shun what the world promotes as OK.

1. We often try to skip the part where we’re “just friends”
2. Physical relationships aren’t necessarily a sign of real love

Once again, I’m gonna have to quote Joshua Harris’s book:

Just because lips have met doesn’t mean hearts have joined. And just because two bodies are drawn to each other doesn’t mean two people are right for each other. A physical relationship doesn’t equal love. ... Sadly, many Christian dating relationships reflect [the wrong] mindset.
(Harris 36)
People who follow the wrong mindset here are usually pretty easy to spot at my high school. They’re the ones holding hands, kissing, and just flat-out mauling each other in the hallways. You know what they’re really doing? Showing off.

Television and movies deserve a large helping of the “blame soup” on this one... if ya smell what I’m cookin’. TV shows and movies let us know that the “treasure protector” is in love with “the mean Declaration lady” by showing them have a little make-out moment.

But what most teenagers -- or, rather, most people -- don’t seem to grasp is that they only portray it this way because, come on, it’s a movie... how else can they show it? So, what do we do? We kiss and all that just like the movies because we think that there’s no other way to show complete strangers that we have girlfriends. And this will, with little doubt, lead to lust.

Lust can corrupt a person. Lust makes you shallow. Shallowness causes you to make spur-of-the-moment decisions when looking for a girlfriend rather than looking to what really matters. I’m not saying that the hottest girl in school isn’t right for anyone, but I can guarantee that she’s not the right person to start with, no matter what she does for your reputation.

I will once again end this with my little disclaimer: I’m not saying that having a girlfriend is wrong. What I’m saying is that too many people make choices in high school dating relationships that lead to unnecessary pain and heartbreak. And I won’t force anyone to follow this example, but I personally will try to stop thinking about women and just enjoy the gift of being single.

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