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Dating Madness - 3 of 5

By Ryan, January 17, 2007

Just a quick recap: Last week, I execrated* the idea of “getting too physical” in a realationship. Time for week three.

1. We often try to skip the part where we’re “just friends”
2. Physical relationships aren’t necessarily a sign of real love
3. Dating frequently results in two-person cliques

For purposes of the story, I will refer to two of my friends only as Jack and Jill. They did not go up any hill, but they did go out for a while.

Jack had been one of my better friends for a long time. Jill? I had known her for a little while; not any shorter than Jack had, though. (Those of you who read my last post can already point out their first error.) They met each other and, for a while, seemed “cute”* together. Ask me where they went wrong.

Hey, I’m glad you asked. As soon as they started going out, my friendship with Jack deteriorated... quickly. He treated me with more sarcasm than usual. He would eventually stop talking to me. And as for Jill... she avoided me, thinking it would be better for her social life if Jack was the only male presence. This started her down the path to the dark side... and by that I mean that she slowly began cutting herself off from almost every friendship. And this is what I see too frequently, and it’s why I have decided strongly against having a girlfriend. I don’t trust myself to keep all my other friendships healthy while maintaining a dating relationship. Oh, sure, I probably could, but I’m already happy the way I am.

The bottom line: If you think you can have a dating relationship without causing other good friendships to wither away like the grass, go for it. But the minute you catch yourself going down a path that leads you away from vital friends, break it off immediately.

Now, in the midst of all this hopeless negativism, comes the part where I brag on my best friend, Justin... an example of what is good in a teenage dating relationship. He’s been going out with his girlfriend for almost a year, and it’s quite obvious that they like each other as more than just friends. The main difference? His girlfriend is open to being friends with anyone that he wants to hang out with, and vice-versa. I hate sounding like a crony, but every time I think of what it would be like to have a girlfriend, I think of how much I want to be like them. Kudos, Justin and Brittney.

Labels: Dating, Relationships

{ Posted 5:51 PM | E-Mail Post | Edit Post }

 Justin:

BEARS!!!!!

 Ryan:

Colts by 10 or more.
Looks like a Faulty Jeans Civil War.

 Ryan:

I’m a poet and I didn’t know it!!

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